With the circumstances today, and the unfortunate inevitabilities of
life, many of us are forced to become single parents. It can happen to you at
any moment in your life. Perhaps, through the death of a spouse, divorce,
abandonment or often – just plain choice. Whatever the case may be, I think
what matters the most is that we come out of it in charge and completely aware
of the situation, as well as the choices we have within our control.
Here are a few excellent suggestions to maintain a healthy mental
state, thrive as an person and care for your child/ren in the best possible
manner.
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Take responsibility. Know that you had
your part to play in it but don't beat yourself up. Never let your
circumstances make you anyone’s dart board, take advantage of you or force you
into a decision you aren't 100% comfortable with.
·
Maintain a blameless mindset. Blaming
yourself won’t help anyone and can often worsen matters.
·
Accept support. Remember there are many
good, kind, loving people who are with you and want to help. There are also
very helpful state funded grants etc out there. Never feel shy to make use of
any and all facilities available to you.
·
Spiritual healing. It does work for
some.
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Your little one. Remember that your child
is now your number one priority.
·
Seek outside help. There are various
hospitals and crisis centres, social workers or other social agencies that can
help you.
·
Safety first. If you are in a bad
neighbourhood or an unhealthy relationship, leave. Your safety and the safety
of your child/ren is of priority now.
·
Believe in yourself. Know that you can
succeed at anything and that you are strong.
·
Overlook. Ignore people who are critical
of you. You have a bigger goal to focus on.
·
Learn CPR. Take infant and child CPR
classes. You never know when you’ll need it.
·
Love yourself. Remember every day is a new
beginning, and YOU are the architect of your future.
Being a single parent is extremely overwhelming. It can be hard to
get your head around the surroundings of your new set up and you may be
struggling to cope with feelings of loneliness. It’s normal. Remember, that it
takes time for everyone to get used to the transition and, as a parent, your main
concern should be how to support your child through this process that more
often than not – they don't understand. Most importantly, what’s important is, to
look after yourself. Get help if you need it. you can only take care of someone
if you know how to take care of yourself.
-S
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