I
recently tied the proverbial knot to my high school sweetheart. Guys, I must
say that marriage may very well just be the best thing that has ever happened
to me. That being said, I enjoy really those stolen moments to myself. Not
picking up after someone, or tidying up the kitchen, or doing the laundry...How many of you out there can relate?
It’s so
easy to lose yourself to someone...even easier to convince yourself that you are
OK with doing just that! Do I have news for you! Watching that very scenario
play out in other relationships has taught me not to make the same mistake – that
means, loving ME.
To love me, I have to find ME
Don't
get me wrong, I love my husband. He completes me & makes my life so meaningful...
BUT Ladies, let’s face it, it’s not an obedient, slaving, “replacement for a
mother” that he fell in love with, is it? It’s that feisty tigress, who is
opinionated and loud, who makes him laugh, and who challenges his status quo to
make him discover himself that he wants to be with. I’m sure you are similar in
the things that count...you should be. But don’t lose yourself & start to
emulate your partner...else, he may as well be married to, or date, himself.
I was
lunching with friends, when we started discussing the things we do, when it’s
just USJ
Try a
few:
·
Don’t
bother combing your hair or using makeup
·
Try a
facialJ you’ll feel like a million bucks
·
Walk
around naked (after you get over the awkwardness, the freedom will be
exhilarating)
·
Throw
away the stuff he has been hoarding. It’s therapeutic
·
Wash your
car... finally, it’s “your” time to enjoy that Lady
·
Leave stuff
lying around in the house, and say to yourself “you’ll stay there until I say
so”
·
Eat all
the junk food you want (no guilt)
·
Listen
to "girly" music real loud & dance around the house, singing
really loud (even if you are outta tune)
·
Eat all
the Lindt by yourself (they weren’t meant for sharing anyway)
·
Watch
tear-jerker romantic comedies (Notebook, The Vow). You can salivate over Channing
Tatum all you want without feeling guilty. And, you won’t feel like slitting
your wrists at the sight of a skinny, barber-doll heroine, whom you loathe for
being so miserably perfect
·
Hog the
remote (**evil laugh**)
You don't have to
predict his every move or even be perfect . . . be you!! Any chance that
I get to be on my own – is my time. My
time to indulge and let it loose! To be silly and give him a chance to miss
me!! Look, I get that some couples are very “close-knit”, to say the least. But
Ladies, remember that you can only be your best, as a partner, if you know who you are. You can also catch my articles at www.all4women.co.za
-Sam
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